You pass her in the hallway,
think nothing of her,
the same way she thinks about herself.
Her hair is style in a bob,
the hairstyle that her mother always requested,
the hairstyle she would vow to never wear again.
There isn’t anything extraordinary about her:
brown eyes, and brown hair,
she is a bit tall for her age,
nothing worth remembering.
She goes to the same school as her older sister and younger brother,
everyone who passes her points and says:
“That girl is so-and-so’s sister.”
Both her siblings possess a name-
but to the world she is known as
It started in first grade.
Her beginning as, and the creation of “that girl.”
A club was dedicated in honor of a mutual hatred of her.
In the club, they used her real name,
this is when she preferred to be associated by “that girl.”
This reoccurring club caused that 9-year old girl
to write that she was,
and that she should be alone forever,
and she began to wonder if she was born like that.
Later she created a chart of “Friends or Foes” in her journal,
as the pages turned, the number of foes
gradually began to
In Middle School, the club remained in existence,
with even more members than before.
Uncomfortable in her own skin,
she wore clothes that were labeled “XL,”
even though she was barely a small.
The loose fit made her feel as if she was able to hide herself a bit more
and draw less attention to herself.
Things seemed to be going a bit better,
but then another rumor was created.
In defending one of her friends from a racist remark,
the bully turned to her and called her
“an anorexic white trash piece of shit,”
words that she vividly remembers to this day,
along with the saliva that spewed out his mouth
as his lips formed around the words.
That girl and anorexic became linked.
Because of this, a social worker inquired her eating habits.
That day, that girl decided to wear her black sweater
because she began to become interested in boys,
and it was the one piece of clothing that she liked on her.
The social worker looked at the girl in the sweater
and was able to see how thin she was,
she asked the girl if she wore black because she felt depressed.
After leaving the social worker’s office,
the girl would hear whispers around her,
“That girl is anorexic”.
She never wore that black sweater again.
Her Drama teacher would watch her walk across the stage
telling “that girl” that she should be a model.
The attention and the eyes analyzing her body made her uncomfortable,
She hated being associated with the word “model”.
She reverted to wearing clothes that could fit three of her inside.
That girl will never believe that she has the physique of one,
and that comment reminds her of the words
that spewed from the boy’s mouth,
who has probably forgotten about them.
Before entering high school, she chopped off her hair
to become more invisible.
She heard the rumors though,
“That girl is gothic.”
“That girl is ugly.”
She decided to remain quiet,
hoping to fade into the background.
She was teased for being “so white,”
she was already created as an Other
before she was able to provide herself with a voice.
She eventually grew out her hair, wore more form fitting clothes
in an attempt to bring more positive attention towards her.
She became friends with a boy,
mistook their friendship for something more,
and confessed her feelings for him,
he replied “that’s cool.”
She thought that her embarrassment was over,
but he then asked her for advice to get with her current best friend.
That best friend dated everyone of that girl’s guy friends, and crushes.
That girl felt betrayed for trusting her,
but believed that she never had a chance with those guys,
Sophmore year she found a boyfriend.
She told him everything; he was bullied too,
she thought they shared a connection.
He used and abused her.
He knew what to say and how to say it.
He was the first boy that called her pretty,
she let flattery take over.
She began to hate herself every time she clicked send,
but she didn’t stop because she craved the approval.
The girls that she sat with at lunch claimed to all be her friends.
The two girls that sat to the right of her brushed their food crumbs
all over her, every day.
Her other friends watched
and continually claimed that the “next time” they saw it happen,
they would confront them.
Well next time came,
and kept coming,
but the words were
People talked to her when they needed favors,
and she was always willing to help them.
That girl was smart academically and helped many of her classmates.
She knew almost a secret from everyone;
but they would always choose other people over her.
They were embarrassed to be seen talking to her.
They went out and never invited her,
and she sat quietly watching them reminisce.
Her ex wrote a blog entry about her,
using it as a device to appeal to other girls,
he didn’t use her name, but he didn’t have to.
He claimed that he taught that girl a lesson about herself.
That girl only learned how to hate herself more.
That girl never received an apology; except once.
That girl never showed the hurt that others caused her.
That girl still remembers
that was ever slurred,
and the pain that she felt.
That girl has come across many of the people that had tormented her
and watch them act as if no wrong had ever been done.
That girl never uttered a word to those people.
That girl used to believe that she
cruelty that was bestowed upon her.
That girl is me.
I know how much words can hurt.
I know what it feels like to feel alone in crowded room.
I know what it feels like to wait for karma to come around.
I know what it feels like to be alone.
I know what it feels like to hate yourself.
I know what it feels like to wish you were someone else.
I know how strong this has made me.
I know how hard it is to tell yourself every morning that
you deserve to be loved.
I know that I am a million times stronger than those who have done wrong to me.
It is a constant battle, and every time it appears over,
it sneaks upon you and consumes you,
but you always have to fight.
I am not those words they called me, I am not what they defined me.
I am ThatGirl.
ThatGirl that will haunt you cause although you were cruel to her,
she was nothing but kind to you.
ThatGirl who was kicked, beaten, but never defeated.
ThatGirl that was knocked down, but never fell.
ThatGirl once invisible, now invincible.
ThatGirl is me.